Thank you for your comments. They weren't too abrasive - in fact I think they make a lot of sense. I don't have much time to respond right now, but I'll try to say more later.
I can certainly love my wife for who she is and I can accept her "as is". That's what I've done to this point and I know that I'll always love her no matter what happens. However, I'll be miserable. I've been trying to meet her needs as she's described them to me, and I plan to continue doing so. It hurts however that she doesn't care enough about me to do the same. I don't want to go through life feeling the way that I've felt for the past 5 years - is that selfish? I'll say more later.
Fred, thank you for your comments also. I appreciate the support and will try to say more later.
