Just bought a 1 way non-refundable ticket to Dtown

[ntl]

Aaack!! H4C!! I missed all these developments! Wow. Sounds like she's had a falling out w. OM. I would definitely tread cautiously here. It may be that they're fighting and now she's wanting to come back to you to "show" him. Be yourself (don't go out of your way to contact her or to fawn over her) and give back as much as you get. So, no need to be distant or detached when she's being loving, but don't let her think you're a lapdog. Women need to know their men are not pushovers and won't just take anything.

If she's coming home, I would certainly let her know she can't have any contct with the OM. And that if she's serious about you two working things out, she has to have ZERO interaction with him.

Good luck. I hope everything works out just as you want it!!

Oh! As for the idea of letting the divorce go through...I've often grappled with that same issue. I wonder if I should just divorce my H, see if he is consistent and serious about making his changes, and then remarry if the impetus and desire to have a new and renewed marriage is there. I can't give you any guidance, but it seems symbolically wonderful to me to break the past and start anew if the love and commitment is there.

ntl