I didn't follow your last couple posts well. Are you having custody or your wife. I thought it was you, but then you talked about how you would be making child support payments. You have her by the short hairs. Make sure that the things you agree to are not just in your wife's best interests or to show what a great guy you are. You have to look out for yourself, because she sure as he&& isn't going to.
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She indicates that she is undecided now on whether she really wants a D. I told her it is all in her hands as to delaying or putting a stop to this D. I told her I am proceeding as if we are getting a D. She knows the kids have expressed that they dont want it just as I have expressed my disapproval on the breakup of our family.
Kerry, I struggle with you giving her the power to decide any of this. You keep telling her this as though it's solely a ploy or something. You have a say in the matter also...in fact, it's mainly your say. Do you want this divorce or not, regardless of what your wife wants? If she wants a divorce, she can go the lawyer route. If you want it, then go ahead, but quit telling her she can stop it, especially if you aren't sure you really even want her. Right now, she doesn't sound like she's much of a prize.
Kerry, one more 2x4 (sorry, I'm just a 2x4 kind of guy I guess): I still sense a fair amount of manipulation with your actions. Yeah, I know DB seems like manipulation at times, but in some things you have to be true to yourself. Asking her to take your picture for a dating site doesn't really send any message except "I'm already going to be looking for your replacement". It was actually a little bit of a kick to the teeth. Anyone could have taken your picture...why ask your wife? What does that say about your interest in preserving this marriage. Some of your words and actions are in contrast to other words like "you can still stop this divorce at any time". Why would she? You'll start dating as soon as the ink dries on the divorce decree. I can honestly see kicking her to the curb, but you need to decide if that's what you are doing or if you want to save your marriage. It's just too confusing otherwise. Hope that wasn't too harsh.
My opinion is that it's too soon to date, but hey, I'm a hypocrite since I dated too soon also. From personal experience, a little time on your own, without the entanglements of dating, is worthwhile.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
