I think you're both right. I would actually consider myself high desire as opposed to high need. Even when I've gone a long time without making love to my wife, in the back of my mind I still KNOW that she loves me. But at those times I FEEL that she doesn't love me - if that makes any sense. What you've both basically said is that when sex isn't happening with a reasonable frequency it's the only thing you think about - it basically becomes a need. I agree with MPT's husband that sex is dessert, not the entrée. But when you've gone so long without dessert, you begin to lose your appetite for the entrée as well. Fred summed it up well when he said "Its like when you are starving all you can think about is getting some food. When you can get food often enough you don't focus on it anymore." I think that's completely true. All this food talk is making me hungry.
Thank you both for you comments and MPT please thank your husband for getting involved as well. It's nice to feel like my "support group" is growing.
