Stuck in Neutral - MN Man's 5th thread

[phbear316]

Letting go. I hope i get this right, and it makes sense to you, every time i read it, it makes me think,

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring
It means i can't do it for someone else
To let go is not to cut myself off...
Its the realization that I can't control another
To let go is not to enable
but to allow learning from natural consequences
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands
To let go is not to try and change or blame another
I can only change myself
To let go is not to care for, but to care about
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive
To let go is not to judge
but allow another to be a human being
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own outcomes
To let go is not to be protective
It is to permit another to face reality
To let go is not to deny, but to accept
To let go is not to nag, scold, argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.
To let go is not to critize ad regulate someone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but grow and live for the future
To let go is to fear less and love more.


Every time i read this, i get choked up, but it makes you think about things in a different light, that there are things we cannot control and things we need to let go, for ourselves and for our loved one, as painful as it may be, right now.