This is why I think puppy/bunny (and monkey) are critical to maintaining intimacy in a M. It's basically flirting with emotional intensity thrown in. You were lacking that for some reason with Ex so he found that with someone else. The fence was torn down. And it sounds like you didn't want to "tend that fence" when you saw it happening. I think I'm disagreeing here with MJ on being able to just remain confidence in yourself despite the actions of the person you are with. I just don't think that is realistic. Not for maintaining the R/M. My guess is your H wanted to see you become vulnerable when he acted like that but you wanted to act like it wasn't as serious as it was. That backfired. I dunno. Just a guess.
