Gosh how funny is this. This morning while i was taking a shower, i started to think why has h done this to me, to us, why is he sleeping with someone else, yada, yada, yada. All of a sudden i pictured a big red stop sign, and i just started singing row, row, row your boat in the shower. Where this came from i have not idea, but you know what, before i knew it, i was done with my shower and moved on to thinking what am i going to wear to work today.
So that great you thought of a song a happy one, and a tv show. See so you are starting with instead of a stop sign think of a tv or a musical note. What ever works for you.
Man, listen or reread what you just posted about about your wifes actions, remember they are her actions not yours. As the moderators and smarter people (as i call them) say, she is not thinking clearly she is being selfish, note the word SHE. I have the same issue with my H he feels its ok, because his feelings have "changed" or his new one we have just grown apart, (hate that one, he grew away from me, anyway rambling)HE feels its ok to take ow to a family wedding, HE feels its ok to tell me he is going out, and then leave a note saying he is not coming home. They are driven my their guilt feelings thats all i can tell you.
Does it make it any easier no, but you like me have to start separating from them. Somewhere on this site is a great post about letting go. I copied it down and have it and i read it once in a while. I read it and somedays it makes me feel powerful other days sad, but i get thru it and think about what it means each time i read it, and pick on one thing to work on
I will post it for you
Anyway enjoy that yummy cake on friday. Your doing good Keep up the good work bear
Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce
