Quoting FredD: Sex would probably not be an issue or focal point if I was getting it frequently. Its like when you are starving all you can think about is getting some food. When you can get food often enough you don't focus on it anymore.
The same thought occurred to me too, that he could see sex this way because he hasn't been sex-starved recently. But when we actually got down to the specifics of his behavior during our starvation period, I have to admit that he was right about me misreading him and blowing things out of proportion. (I'm working on not doing that so much.)
I only had a limited number of examples of his behavior that might indicate he was seriously distressed about the lack of sex. Even those examples were pretty pathetic, based mostly on ambiguous non-verbal behavior. Boy, did I feel foolish when I looked at all my evidence of how much he needed sex to feel loved!
The fact is he has had a much clearer picture than I have had of the strength of our marriage and our relationship throughout this whole thing. I'm just glad I've finally gotten out from underneath the thumb of my "needs," and can begin to really enjoy my best friend and lover again.
