OK Olive, sit down for "Thursday's Reality Corner". I am putting on my Mr Rogers sweater and slippers so I can be warm and fuzzy.
Reality 1-Your H's relationship with your parents is circling the drain. If he is going to impact your parents seeing your daughter, he will. You or your parents have no control over that.
Reality 2-Once you are divorced, if he doesn't want to allow your daughter to see your parents on his days, he doesn't have to.
Reality 3-By protecting your husband, you are perpetuating his fantasy world. Telling people that you care about is hard and I found it a bit emasculating, but you know the old saying, "the truth shall set you free"
Reality 4-If you tell your parents about the A, it will not make it worse for you. It will make it worse for him and your fear of his reaction is what makes you think it will be worse for you. There reaction to the A is inevidable. Quit worrying about his reactions. Tell the truth and be honest.
Reality 5- Your parents aren't being inflexible with you. They are rallying around you and don't care to associate with someone who is hurting their daughter. Can you really blame them?
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
