In Support of Strong Puppy

[MJontheMend]

Out of nowhere, I was woken up to have my brains "wolfed" out last night. He was saying this morning how hot and all it was (I was pretty much reduced to giggling in response, it was that good). He mentioned that it was unlike him (true) and that he seemed to have somehow mislaid his usual inhibitions (over-nice tendencies to not want to "disturb my sleep" and/or "impose his animal lusts on me", etc, as if I don't try to impose mine on him *all* the time ....) I said how delighted I was by that, and that I was perfectly capable of saying "no" if I had really wanted to. He replied something along the lines of "I know. It makes a lot easier for me, now that you're no longer operating out of guilt." As if he had to censor himself somehow, become more St. Bernard and less wolf to "protect" me from unwanted sex, because I apparently couldn't be trusted to do it myself. That kind of hit me between the eyes. 'Cause I can't say he's wrong. Over the last couple years, and especially since I got Schnarched, I have gotten a lot more confident and tend to do things for better reasons, as opposed to "he/she/they might think badly of me if I don't go along/make waves/be flawed/what have you all". And less perfectionisty overall. But I didn't realize until he said that what a weak-assed cow I must have been manifesting .... weak bunny, too. Live and learn ... at least it's getting me laid!

I'm so happy things are going so well for you. I may be way off the mark but I picture you and H as this kind of hip-laidback vaguely academic couple- all gender-neutral at the food co-op but vibing sub/dom on the futon. I would say that based on what you H said, you were vibing weak monkey rather than weak cow/bunny. Strong monkey is shameless and selfish and will get laid. A good example of someone who vibes strong monkey is the Sean Hayes character on Will & Grace. Obviously he is deficient in some other animals but I'd bet the bank that he would never end up on this BB. Of course, all the animals are important if one wants to be sexual within the context of a good relationship. When I say that my 2bx is a PAL, I'm really just saying that he's a monkey/dysfunctional wolf/weak puppy with pretty much non-existent St. Bernard.