W still angry with me, but the intensity lessens

[Lanzo]

Hi GFI,

Let me give you an example of our poor communication.

One morning last week W was less than pleasant with me in contrast to other mornings. She was glaring at me and giving me one word answers. So I start to think, have I f**ked up somewhere or maybe she been in contact with OM. (Her anger at me used to increase with contact with OM).

So all day at work I'm thinking something's wrong but not knowing what the problem was. In the evening no mention of the problem but I can see W is not happy. Next morning W asked why did I bring her some water to take her meds on a previous morning "you stopped doing that a while ago". I said it was because I did XYZ wrong and wanted to apologise before I went to work. Then she said aren't you going to apologise for yesterday. Why ? I said, Well your snoring kept me awake, you spread out in the bed and took all the space, you were hogging then duvet, D6 came in and was crying. I didn't get a wink of sleep and I was very, very tired.

I was actually relieved with this explanation, but why not say something sooner.

So poor communication, it could have led to a bigger disagreement, I offered to discuss my snoring, and W feelings about it with her, but her answer was, "Snoring is your problem you deal with it".

So I'm trying to get to grips with our communication problems, W doesn't seemed to have got the hang of it yet.

PS: Snoring was on W list of things which made me unattractive to her, so in the greater scheme of things it will be somthing that I need to address.