You have the cuttest kids. Keep being the gread dad that you are. Hey after reading your sitch, I have thought of something you need to ask your attorney about. Generally, if you pay alimony it is only good until W moves in with another M or remarries. So you could use this as an advantage for yourself financially. If you can get her to agree to sole custody for you, or more nights with you then her, that will save in child support, which goes until they are 18 basically. But if she will give on the kid front in exchange for more alimony, alimony can end shortly or after a few years when she remarries or moves in with someone. I would ask your Attorney about this and keep it from W.
I was planning on using this until I found that I wouldn't owe W any alimony to begin with and joint custody was the standard.
Ya, I can see a lot of similarities between our sitch's. My W isn't working anything out for herself and keeps goig through men like tissue paper. Even her new friends, all going through, or having gone through a D, think she is making a mistake. They were all beaten by their H's, nice guys! But they think I'm trying and a good guy, without haveing even meet me, and that W is tossing away a good M. Well too bad.
You know the WAS gets addicted to that dopamine rush, and they can't quit. Slowly over time that doesn't do it, just like any drug, and then they will do it to the OM to feel the rush again. This will continue until they decide to stop running. It's really sad, but their choice. Can't help someone who doesn't want help themselves.
