W still angry with me, but the intensity lessens

[GFI]

Yes, yes, yes! I can relate to that - too many things left unsaid, too many assumptions made, too much taken for granted etc etc.

All of that rings true with me - I guess I thought in many ways that we shouldn't have to discuss such things, that in a loving R this sort of stuff should sorta take care of itself - how wrong and blinkered!

All the more reason to recognise the ground you have gained here - you have shown an awareness of a fundamental failing in your R previously and taken a massive positive step to showing that you 1. you can recognise it when it comes along and 2. you can tackle it. Also you have modelled a way of dealing with it that W may be able to slip in her tool-box too.

Best - GFI