I had a conversation with W tonight about our D and if she has any leanings one way or the other. She said that there is no way she could guarantee that she would not go bar hoping 1, 2 or 5 years down the line. She also acknowleges that she has had anger problems her whole life and that she does not believe she could ever change. She admits that even her mom left to go home early the last time she visited with us because of her anger problem. I am now 100% sure that I am doing the right thing by ending this marriage.
We talked about our parenting plan and seem to be in agreement, but need some more time to get it finalized.
She still is very against lawyers even though she said that she will see one next week. I told her that we should both attempt to be friendly and flexible in getting the financials of our D worked out as the less we use of lawyers that there is more money left over for the both of us.
I told her I will pay her half of the increase in assets since we have been married. I indicated that I can pay her a big down payment and she seemed agreeable to allow me to make the rest in payments with interest. I also told her that I would roll half of my retirement increase since we were married into a retirement account for her. I feel that since she will be moving into the OM house, and he is wealthy, I will not be offering up any spousal support - I did not tell her this. I believe that even though we will be 50/50 on the custody time, that I will still need to make child support payments according to state guidelines. I may be crippled financially for some time and made her aware of it.
As she left the house, I told her I would like to get our D over with as quick as possible so that we and the kids can move on quicker with the next chapter in our lives.
