Dom, screaming and yelling isn't exactly effective unless one can clearly communicate what they are trying to convey. Something clear and direct would be much more effective than screaming actually. For years my W has picked fights and screamed and yelled at me. All it did was completely shut me down and made me avoid her and no longer listen to her. Sometimes it is much more effective if she would've said, "I am unhappy, and this is why, and if you can do this, this, and this then I would be happier." It's straight forward and simple. And it would be very clear to me that I love her and this is what I must do. Instead, she constantly complained about she isn't happy but leave me to guess why. I ask her what I can do to make her happy. All I got was: "I don't know", "You should know already", "if you really love me and care about me you don't have to ask". Not knowing what to do and frustrated, it just made me more closed off. So for all the ladies out there, if you want something then spit it out. If you beat around the bush, you won't ever get what you want. We men want simple and direct answers and you won't hurt our feelings by telling us what you want, in fact, we will thank you!
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
