Well today was pretty tough, my Attorney, also a good friend and who knows what I'm doing, plus he has seen what his own D has done, tried to talk me out of it. After a good long talk, I think he could sense my frustration with the situation. So we wrote up the settelment agreement. It was more then fair. Basically followed the temp order, but I am now offering to split the child tax credit and exemption every other year. He didn't think I should since we have such a good stance, but I felt like I didn't want to be a jerk about things.
The hard part for W will be the cover letter. Basically, it stated, that since she has not appointed new council we sent it to her. That she should retain council for a review. Don't want this thing ripped open again in 6 months. Also said that if she didn't agree to sign we would be scheduling the mandatory mediation as soon as possible and move forward with the case.
So she should get it by Friday, I'm sure when I pick up S she will be pissed, but I'm not going to listen to it. It was really hard to deal with, walked by the out mail all day looking at the envelope wondering if I'm doing the right thing. Thought I would have time to dwell on it when I went into my last meeting, but it ran over and when I had gotten out the secretary was gone, as was the mail. So off it goes.
Ya know I have dwelt on that hope question a lot lately, and have a good example on it. One of my best friends growing up came up with a good business idea and asked me to join. Well after a huge blow out after I found out he was using our capital for his own personal expenses, I was done with him. Disolved the partnership and moved on with life. Well apparently it made an impression, a few years later I ran into him at a mutual friends house, and he asked to talk to me. Said it was a big turning point in his life, really helped him see what type of person he was and he didn't like it. We are really good friends again, would I ever open an account with him again, no. But taught him and I both some things. So there is always hope to repair R's, no matter what has happened or where they go. Only God knows.
