Confusion of a WAW (Thread 5)

[JennyF]

Hey Brit,
Your W is really very dependant on you, and a lot of the time when she doesn't need to be.

I don't get why last night she told me she didn't want me to help her ever, then today she's asking to borrow money when she could solve the problem without including me at all.

No idea why she called me, since I basically did the same thing she could have done which was search on the Internet for the number.

Part of her depression is probably just being overwhelmed and not able to handle even minor things. I'm sure she doesn't want this (hence what she said about not needing your help), but she doesn't seem to have very good coping skills at the moment and she's really leaning on you for a lot. Not that this is a bad thing, but I can really see why it would confuse you.
And...it may be interesting to see how she still 'needs you' if you move in with her.
She wants you there to help her...but she doesn't want you to believe that she 'needs you'...that word NEED is interesting. It's us LBS who are trying not to need our S's, but in your sitch is a bit reversed.

I could just be babbling here Brit...but thought I'd throw my two cents in!
J~