LO, I wish wish wish we were closer. We have such similiar situations and apparently similiar husbands. Its so good to be able to vent about it, and we could be GAL while we did it. Oh to dream...
What's stressing you out today? I mean, other than our lives falling apart around us....
I think you already read my post. I just feel like there are too many people's opinions being heard and too many decisions to make. I'm feeling soooo overwhelmed right now.
I have a couple of friends who are supportive no matter what. Everyone else seems to have a friggin' opinion on how I should "feel". My H is leaving me for another woman.. HOW AM I "suposed" to feel???
I dunno... Just one of those days.. Sorry.. needed to vent I guess
Oh man. I hear ya. Only my best friend knows and just last week I had to 'reign' her in, saying "Stop questioning me, and just listen....". She is a very "leave his A$$" sort of person, but is trying to support me. I just tell her how sometimes.
H called me tonight RANTING about that parking ticket! I paid it right away but got a reminder in the mail anyway. H opened it, thinking his brother got a ticket driving our truck (he is buying it from us..). H called brother (city cop) yelling at him about not paying a ticket, and brother looks it up and says "Uh, that's LWB's car".
H rants "Since when do you get tickets and not tell me about them??". I said "It wasn't a DUI, it was a $10 parking ticket". I got questioned about lunch AGAIN..... UGH I kept it light and changed the subject and he calmed down....but dear LORD!
ummm...you are supposed to report to him if you get a parking ticket??? seriously? because unless he has the power to make it go away, I think in terms of marital betrayals, this one doesn't even hit the radar screen. (and for a $10 ticket, even the "he can make it go away" excuse isn't really applicable).
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
lwb - one of my GF's ran off with another woman, (after 20+ years of M and three children) - maybe your H is getting worried he has redirected your sexual orientation She is 43 and now has a 29yr old toy boy!!!!
Keep up the woman of mystery routine. If he catches a glimpse of Hope he will be jealous- she must be way prettier than OW. LOL
On a more serious note - you are so strong and your H does seem confused; why would he bother where you were going and who you were having lunch with if he didn't care about you? You are a v. precious person.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I'm not surprised at all about your H....my XH did similar sh$t to me. They will grasp at anything they can when they feel you are slipping away from them. It's ok if they do whatever they want, but the world stops the day you don't give him an itinerary of what you are doing. The only advice that I have with this is that I would keep continuing on and live for yourself. You can't change him...he's got to be the one to change and obviously if he's ranting and raving about a $10 parking ticket, he's got a lot of changing to do yet.
On a side note, my X continues to contact me about anything that he can think of. I don't go a week or two without hearing from him. When he walked out on me a year ago, he wouldn't contact me for a month or more...these guys are some confused men and we seem to be some amazingly strong women to continue to be able to deal with them.
Email me and let me know what's going on Saturday night. Maybe we can still try to meet up.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
saffie, his own brother's first wife left him for a woman. They were married for 16 years!!! Its still a shock to the family and H has joked about it to me (turning my sexual orientation). Heck, minus the sex stuff, I could TOTALLY see marrying a woman. We would sooooo get each other.
Hope, you are right. There is nothing I can do at the moment. I am continuing on with my life even though I want a different life. But there's that thing about 'no control'. I don't have control of the situation, so I am going to control what I can..... I'll let you know about Saturday night. I know the party goes from 5-9pm, but I know its a far drive for you to come into the city...
Heck, minus the sex stuff, I could TOTALLY see marrying a woman.
lwb - I think a lot of women are on that page too - I know I have said it before in the past. Women seem to often speak the same language, finish off one another's sentences, know what one another means without great long explanations......LOL
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
She is 43 and now has a 29yr old toy boy!!!! 
