It's amazing how many similarities there are between many of these mlcers. I have even read some material on people being predispositioned for it by early life experiences (abuse, abandonment, unstable family). My wife experienced all three.
Like yours, My W had no problem or guilt talking about OM to me. It was really weird. I think it reflects their brokeness in a way. It's like they're shattered psychologically, still connected and intimate with us, but at the same time connected to this OM. Their total self-centeredness prevents them from even considering our feelings in the matter, that we might be hurt by them revealing details of their relationship with OM to us. It's another sign that something ain't right with them.(I apologize for my coloquil ideomatic phrasing)
Hang in there man, you're doing great! You will reach a point where instead of an emotional reaction to what is going on, you'll just step back and shake your head at the whole situation. Then one day you'll even be able to laugh at the stuff that happens and the sheer lunacy of it all. I kid you not.
By the way, don't laugh in front of them or on the phone with them. It really p*ss*s them off, almost as bad as calling a Klingon a coward.
You're doing better than I did in the beginning. When I suggested we not talk (at all) unless before a counselor I was reamed and labeled "passive aggressive" by my W.
Last edited by sleeper; 01/10/0803:09 AM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
