geez. don't know what happened to the long one, and I don't think I can do it again tonight.
Well, darn it. things are good, folks. what was my main point, after all that typing? It's about finding yourself. Doing this for yourself. Yes, we know we are all here to save our marriages, but if you don't really start GAL for you, really for you, not just because you hope it will bring your spouse back, then it won't work. There is no guarantee it will bring your spouse back, but that's why it works. If you are doing it just to attract them, you are not being true to yourself. And if you are true to yourself, you will be happy even if they don't get it.
I had better stuff in that post that disappeared in cyberspace. Darn.
Oh, trust. It's a big question for many--how can you ever trust them after they have cheated? Do I really trust my husband? Yes. Right now. Am I 100% sure he will never cheat on me again? NO! He's shown that's one of the ways he deals with our problems. Not good. But at least I know it. Right now, as things are, and if things continue to approve, I believe he won't cheat. If things get bad again, all bets are off. I just don't know how much he has learned, how much he has really grown, from this mess. But I don't think about it every day. I'm not worried about it. I just know I have to pay attention to our marriage and to him and make sure things are never so awful again.
That really doesn't sound as convincing as it did the first time I tried to explain it. But now I'm getting frustrated trying to explain again. I'll check back in again, and I really do want to be a positive influence here instead of whining. I didn't want to leave or disappear for another extended period on a negative note.
