Now the biological connection is a very interesting and slippery thing. Humans are very good at bonding with children, and even animals, to whom they have no biological connection at all... my father is one of many men who took a child he knew damn well wasn't biologically his and spent the rest of his life fathering that child and leaving no doubt in anyone's mind that I was his in every way that counted. One thing I noticed looking back over my own life, and reading the experiences of other adoptees, is that while the adults are more than ready to bond with and actively, lovingly, and diligently parent a child that isn't biologically theirs, the babies have a much harder time bonding with their new moms. I guess there's a whole lot more instinct and a whole lot less higher brain functions at work there.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
