Please know, I am not trying to make things difficult nor and am I trying to get back at you for anything. S & D are the most important and precious things in my life and I would never use them that way, ever.
I wouldn't include the above part. I think by telling H you aren't trying to make things difficult, he will think that that is exactly what you are trying to do. I might just simplify it to something like "I have been thinking about our discussion and what you requested. I would like the two of us to research this and revist the discussion. I think it is important for us to do what is in the children's best interest."
