Point taken. It does look like he was looking for an excuse to stop supporting himself, much less anyone else.
Originally Posted By: Corri
But just because she 'let's go' doesn't mean that the 'mother I am inside' goes away. It means, as a responsible mother, I teach and groom my children to operate independently, and hopefully, operate very well, independently (A dad is very much a part of that, and he sometimes has to help his W let go). Sometimes a part of that is sending them on their way, whether they think they are ready to go or not. (From personal experience, that is not always an easy thing to do as a mom, but... after they go, you head on into the bedroom and cry your eyes out... pull out the baby books, smell their clothes... ahem. Or... maybe not...)
Yep. But is this a case of going against instinct because your higher brain functions know better, whereas our ancestors couldn't have babied their grown-up children anyway and it didn't matter whether their instincts made them want to? Or is something else going on in the parents who don't willingly let go? I suspect that instinct had a hand in shaping society, and society had a hand in shaping our habits, and it's too fuzzy to definitely separate one from the other.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
