I told my parents about the D (NOT the A) last week. I THOUGHT that it went fine at the time. But, they seem to only know how to place blame on H. When I tried to explain that I did some things wrong in the M as well, my Dad told me that I didn't need to take any responsibility for this. WTH???
I also told them that they had to "be nice" when H is around w/D4, etc... They said ok.. HOWEVER, my Mother has been the biggest b!tch to H. Tonight, my Dad says that my Mom is not happy that H is picking up D4 tomorrow so I can go work out. WTH???? Aren't they supposed to be there to support me?? NOT guilt trip me????
Somebody please remind me that I don't need to make everybody happy... That's my usual m.o.... UGH!!!!
Pour me a drink! I cannot handle any more dang stress in my life at the moment!!!
I *know* my mom will blame H as well. Its their nature. You are right to tell them to keep the peace around H though. You'll have to eventually tell your Mom that you understand her being upset, but you are trying to make this as peaceful as possible for D, and that means seeing you and H all the time....
Ummm...I appreciate you taking your share of the blame in the failure of the marriage, but YOU don't want the divorce, for goodness sake. He filed because he's leaving you for another woman.
If I were your father, I'd want to know. So that way I could go and beat the living sh*t out of that bastard!!
Don't rob your father of his manhood. Let him stick a red-hot poker up your husband's a$$ while you mother scolds him.
Honestly.. I'm not telling my parents everything right now because it makes it worse for ME. They make it he!! for ME and need to understand that H could (and would) get nasty about them seeing their Grandchild as much as they do.. I don't want to do that to D4. There is also no reason that they need to guilt me about H picking up D4 tonight so that I can actually do something I want to do outside the friggin' house.... How am I supposed to go out and GAL when everyone is so inflexible and no one will support me in doing so????
On a lighter note, I have noticed a trend w/H's interactions with me. Once a week.. say every Monday or Tuesday, I get the ILY, lovey dovey stuff. After that, it's all D, D, D.... Funny how predictable..
