This is the kind of thing I was wondering about earlier. Does the maternal instinct ever shut off? Or is it perfectly reasonable to subsidize a grown woman to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars without even questioning it, and perfectly unreasonable and PAL-like to question it?
If my 2bx simply had a strong philosophy along the lines of "People over 18 should be completely independent and self-supporting" and was pro-active about implementing it that wouldn't be PAL-like. I might not care for that philosophy but I wouldn't disrespect a man for honestly expressing it. He was projecting "I am weak and our daughter is strong so I shouldn't be counted on to provide her with support much longer." It is true that our D16 is generally higher functioning than her father but it didn't really make me want to continue in a relationship with him when he pointed that out.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
