If I may ask, what was it about MC that didn't go "well for her?"
If talking about the relationship leads to a downward spiral of anger maybe it would be good to agree to have discussions about the relationship at MC where there is a neutral third party to mediate the sitch. Your MC might help both of you by giving you pointers on how to communicate with one another. Eventually you would be able to have R discussions without mediation.
I can relate to not wanting to talk R at home because shortly after W and I seperated we could not have a conversation without it escalating into WW3, WW4, WW5, etc. (you get the picture). I actually got so tired of the fighting I told her I did not even want to speak to her without a third party (MC) present. This was in part because she was in the anger stage and it was all coming out. MC told us we needed to face the anger and let it be vented, that trying to avoid it would only prolong things. Like a face the wind kinda thing.
Do you think your W needs to vent for a while? Is she the kind of person who holds things in for a long time and now it's coming out? My W is that way. I had no idea how much or how long she had been holding things in.
Also, I'm glad you had a more pleasant evening.
Last edited by sleeper; 01/09/0811:59 PM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
