I agree with bhopeful. What do you hope to get out of sending this letter? If you need more time to think things out, definitely tell him.

And, remember what you tell me. It's a bump in the road.

Don't speculate and remind yourself that Facts are NOT Feelings.

M 5yrs
1st baby-girl born 6/18/08
Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego
H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07
D Final 07/10
OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her
Me, now - happier than I ever was with him