Frank,

I am sorry to hear that this is going on in your life right now.

((((((((hugs)))))))

I have read all of the posts to you and there really isn't much more that I can add.

I do believe you have to make yourself happy and you need to be the one to set the pace with your relationship with your wife.

There seems to be some type of a balance missing here, and I am not quite sure of what it is.

Maybe it has something to do with you switching roles, from her as the needy one to you being the needy one. You are never on equal footing.

The only one you can really save is yourself, but you already know this.

Your wife can not make you happy, she can only add happiness to yur life.

This was a huge lesson for me when my Husband finally came home.

How many promises did you make to her about how different things would be if she stayed in the Marriage?

How many of those things did you actually fulfill?

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.