Aw thanks Corri, thanks Lil. I was having a bit of a poor me pity party for absolutely no reason over on MJ's thread. I think the thread got posted twice and one of them was unusable. (Slaps self upside the head).
Keeping going to Alanon is something I will definitely be doing. It is making such a difference to my ability to keep on track with keeping my nose out of his business. I have such a lot more room in my head since I've stopped concerning my self with HIS stuff.
H has quit cold on his own without going to AA. This is a little disappointing for me but I'm also quite proud of him for being able to do it. I don't really think there is anything I can do or say to encourage him to go although I can see where it would probably help. But then any kind of spiritual development would help him. Perhaps that is a better tack for me to take, and make it into more of a joint/family thing. I think he would be possibly more open to that. But you see there I go again poking my nose into his business.
He is out tonight with the scuba club - normally his big drinking night out. One of the things the Allen Carr book says is that you shouldn't avoid your old haunts to avoid drink because otherwise you won't break the association between alcohol and enjoyment. If you can quickly see that it is possible to enjoy your life as normal without alcohol then it is so much easier to stay sober. I know he is looking forward to the challenge of proving to himself that he can enjoy his night out as usual. It's 11pm here and he's not back yet so he's either fallen off the wagon or having a great time booze free.
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
