How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

It's always easier to give advice than take your own lol. One of the great ironies of life sometimes.

You two are still pretty early into the R phase and you said your H has done some wavering. If they are still talking, even if it's not as much, it may be a safety net for him in that he feels like he has someplace to go back to if you two can't work things out. I've looked at a lot of posts about affairs and people often say that the WAS didn't break off the PA/EA completely until they'd been working on R for a few months because of their fears and insecurities.

I think you have two problems here since you two have such different perspectives. If he sticks to his story that they're just friends, he doesn't see anything wrong with their R yet so he would see any reaction by you as jealous and irrational? Second, if he hasn't said they're not talking, then (in his mind) he's not actually lying to you? Just a thought.

I can't really remove the temptation with myspace other than deleting my account and losing touch with a lot of my HS and college friends, which is something I can't do to myself. But I would love to be able to remove the temptation of looking at his stuff. I wish there was a shredder for that right now lol. Plus, you might get the one next month anyways lol.

As for him showing you things, I also feel like I would have every right to ask and see those things as well. And he will need to prove you can trust him. But he may not be ready yet. Sometimes talking is not enough and time is the best thing for healing.