Don't try to "win her over" by being foolish with your assets. She's already playing dirty pool.
Regarding the flying lessons: don't stop them because you want to stop her from seeing Shrek. That's the tail wagging the dog. Personally I think Karate 2X a week is a better use of time and more likely to become a routine GAL activity than flying. Just my vote.
I think it's fair to ask her not to expose the kids to him until after the D. You are not stupid, neither are your kids. It's fair for you to say that they mentioned they saw him. Duh. "Mommy was hanging around a big rotund man who sweat alot and looked like a troll."
Mrs. Shrek told me that the exposure to the kids occured (she is snooping their online chat and email). I casually asked #2 about it... he did not remember seeing her talking to somebody. Yet in an online chat, she told Shrek, "#2 asked me, 'who were you talking to?'" I will let it die until the next time I go out of town.
And I agree about karate. I have taken it in the past and enjoyed it. However, when I was 7 years old, I said, "I wanna fly planes when I get older," not "I wanna learn karate when I get older." It's my thing...
Great advice all the way around. I definately would draw the line with the kids seeing mr. Shrek.. there is not need for it and she is still a freakin married woman!! what kind of morals does she want her kids to have??
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I am tempted to say, "If you are going to have him around the kids, go ahead and introduce him. Tell the kids who he is, and the role that he plays in your life."
Are you willing to lose out financially to 'take the high road'?
You couldn't trust your W with her fidelity. It seems to be that she may have had Shrek near your kids. Why would you trust her to play fair with money?
Seems to me that you want to be seen as being the voice of reason. Ok - but it might well cost you........how much is it worth? If it's only one months mortgage payment then probably not too big a deal but what if it was 20x that? Would you still feel the same? The principle is the same isn't it?
Personally, I think your W has proven how trust worthy that she is.
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I trust her with my money in her current state. However, as we all know she is inclined to fits of irrational paranoia. I do not want to risk her jumping to some crazy conclusion and responding by cleaning out my bank account.
I am tempted to say, "If you are going to have him around the kids, go ahead and introduce him. Tell the kids who he is, and the role that he plays in your life."
Good one.
Heh, heh, heh...she's:
1. Lying to you about Shrek 2. Lying to parents about Shrek 3. Lying to Shrek about parents. 4. Lying to Church about Shrek (she takes communion while in mortal sin)
