SM I'm really not a fan of the Marriage Builder's site. Exchanging needs inventories always seemed like a cold act of horse trading. "I'll do x, y, and Z if you'll have sex with me." How erotic.
SM, lots of couples don't even know what their SO's ENs are. Filling out the questionnaires is a starting place, not an alternative of/to some type to a legal/binding contract.
Actually the one thing that makes a lot of sense is eliminating Love Busters.(LB) True. The site has lots of posts about why ENs don't get met when there are love busters in the R.
I earn a living with my LB. Guess I could drop some income, get a new job, or retire completely.
SM, if your W doesn't like child care so you can go out on dates, how about shorter dates, maybe only to coffee or something similar.
BB has a semi-self-imposed 4 hour limit away from the house and our kids are not living at home. The dogs replaced the kids and they need to be let outside every 4 hours. BB is big on staying home and has some dislikes about being away for a longer time.
I almost insist we go out to Abby’s, Taco Bell, iHOP, Wal-Mart, etc, every other day and most of the time daily. The trips are short, but it gets BB out of the house. Often she will say "Just bring something home". I tell her no, we are going out and I want xyz straight off of the grill. Sometimes I say if I bring the food home, the fries or sandwiches will already be soggy. I also say I want to have ˝ a rootbeer, ˝ a Coke, ˝ this, and ˝ that, and mix it myself.
I am not a picky eater. I don't mind a little soggy fries/sandwich IRL. I play it up to the point I do, to get a desired result. I get BB out of the house.
You might have to do something similar. Use a different destination and activity that fits your situation.
