I would like to be spoken to with respect and kindness instead of disdain and shortness. I would like there to be no sarcasm or snide tone in our conversations or fights, its demeaning and abusive and I wont tolerate it anymore. I would like you to stop drinking until we get our relationship back on track. I would like when we talk about problems that it doesn’t turn into the blame game or the “if you’d just (rub my back, take me to dinner, make a date night, put some romance into it, tell me sweet things, buy me meaningful trinkets) id do____” I will GLADLY do those things when WE get back on track. I would like to not be criticized for little things, like the way I drive, the way I eat, the way I dress, because I took the tip for the cab out of my pocket early, because I didn’t know you wanted me to hold your hand, because I bought you hard tacos, etc... I would like the little things to be let go, like accidentally missing your turn in a board game, darts, throwing out popcorn etc. or anything else small. I would like you to accept my apology about the little things and that be the end of it. Not to continue criticizing me and belittling me about it well after the issue is resolved I would like you to not look for things to stay mad about. I would like you to NOT roll your eyes or look away when I kiss you. I would like to be kissed passionately back. I would like NOT to be hurt sexually anymore. By hurt I mean not to be denied sex in an ugly and condescending tone. It is ok if yorue not up for it, but you don’t have to hurt me for wanting it. A simple not tonight, or an I’ll make it up to you tomorrow is A LOT less wounding than “Gaa would you just go masturbate?” or a “would you just stick it in, that’s all you want anyways” I would like us to work together to stop ripping each other apart. I would like us to be playful, flirty, and have fun together again. I would like you to not get angry at me because I am trying to help you. I.e. with the laundry, cleaning, dishes, cooking, or miscellaneous projects, etc. If you don’t like how im doing it, tell me how and I will do it. Don’t just get mad and be mean to me because im not doing it your way. I would like you to control your temper better and work at peace instead of continuing to look for things to be mad about. I would like us to work together for the common good. I would like PATIENCE when I don’t understand something you’re telling me. I would like if you ask me a question and I don’t answer it in a way that you understand to ask a different question. Not to continue asking the same question and get irritated when I give the same answer. I do NOT expect you to be my maid, my chef, my laundry service, or my sexual recepticle. I DO expect to have a fair, balanced, loving, emotionally bonding, giving, generous relationship with you and I am willing to work together to achieve it.
What do you guys think of this? Less demanding? more cooperative?
