W still angry with me, but the intensity lessens

[Lanzo]

Today W asked me to pick up D6 from school, and to make sure she has her earrings with her cos W forgot to take them out before D6 sports lessons. W reminded me 3 times so I wouldn't forget. Anyway guess what ...., I forgot, I forgot to check at the school for D6 earrings. Sh*t !!!!.

When I got home with D6, W sees we haven't got the earrings and goes off into a mini rant, at the end of it she calls me a "Waste of Space !!!". Grrrr. Old patterns of behaviour would have meant me making some comment back and then withdrawing into myself, and then us not talking for a few days.

Today I thought I would address this properly. I waited for things to die down, then I asked W could we have a semi serious chat. I told her that I know I messed up a simple set of instructions, but calling me a waste of space doesn't help our sitch, in fact it the starts up the old patterns of behaviour and we don't want that to happen again. W's response was "I hear what you're saying". Then I said to W, I know we don't hug that often, but when we did before I went to the Comedy Store you over exaggerated moving your head out of the way so I couldn't kiss you. I said I'm not trying kiss you, and I won't kiss you unless you want me to. W just nodded. Then as she was walking away she said you did look very smart though. (Thanks)

As we are now, I can see how our old ways of communicating caused problems in our M, W in her semi alien state can't see it yet.