In Support of Strong Puppy

[fearless]

We can choose to emphasize these differences or we can choose to de-emphasize these differences. IMO, emphasizing gender differences leads to a more erotic and romantic relationship. De-emphasizing gender differences leads to a more egalitarian and friendly relationship.

I guess it depends on which "differences" you're talking about, doesn't it? Maybe it's "easier" for me because I am 5'2" and have long hair (For whatever that info is worth!) but it seems to me that no matter how independent, strong, smart, scientific, rational, etc. I am, I have had no problem feeling like the WOMAN in my relationships. Especially with Raven. I can be bunny, monkey, cow or lioness and I still feel "okay" and womanly. In addition, Raven can be puppy, monkey, What's the man's equivalent of cow - stallion or St. Bernard?, or wolf and I can still feel like he is a man.

But this is my question what gender differences are you talking about? Do I have to be stereotypically helpless in order for a man to feel like a man around me? Do I have to pretend I'm not an engineer because that's too equal to a man? Do I have to pretend that I don't love sports and don't hate shopping because that makes me too equal???

I know I've mentioned this before but my parents and grandparents how very loving, egalitarian AND passionate marriages. While my mom and grandmother are very strong, smart women, it never seemed to distract from their womanliness and from their husbands attraction for them. So again for me, it appears that if a man is truly strong and manly, he can handle any woman regardless of whether she emphasizes her differences or not. Because the difference is there!