Human beings fall right in the middle of the spectrum when it comes to gender differences between the male and female of the species. We can choose to emphasize these differences or we can choose to de-emphasize these differences. IMO, emphasizing gender differences leads to a more erotic and romantic relationship. De-emphasizing gender differences leads to a more egalitarian and friendly relationship. What makes sense to me is to recognize that this is true and be self-aware about what you want from a relationship at any given time and how you want to go about getting it in a manner that "works". If I walk into my local lumberyard wearing my overalls, no makeup and manifesting a no-nonsense manner, I will get one kind of service. If I walk into my local lumberyard wearing my best bunkey outfit and manifest a wiggle in my walk, I will get a different kind of service. If I walk into my local lumberyard wearing my floral print dress and manifesting a quiet librarian manner, I will get another kind of service. If I walk into my local lumberyard carrying cupcakes.....okay, you get the picture.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
