Thanks again, you have been so helpful. I had already come to the same sort of conclusion in my brain this morning as I ran my errands. I decided, not that I am keeping score, but he should have gotten credit for texting me at all during bowling, credit for telling me afterward where he was going to be staying, and double points for reassuring me this morning instead of blowing off my messages as more crazy-wife antics. And you are right, he may have ignored his phone because OW was calling/texting; he already told me that the first night after he ended it she sent him 23 messages, and another night while he was with me he said she had tried to call 20 times. Guess I can happily live with letting her be the needy desperate one for a change...;-} Anyway I decided to go with Chipper Charlie, too, since it would actually help me be more productive. So I played with D while S was at Preschool, then went to drop off some applications. So wanted to call H but had no legitimate need to speak to him, so resisted. Just when I thought he must really be annoyed at me for the messages last night, he called my phone at 12:30, from work. I let it ring 3 or 4 times then answered it. He mentioned he had already tried to reach me at home, and wondered what I was up to. I gave a brief but cheery summary of playing with D, giving her a tubby this am, working on teaching apps, etc. Told him I may be ready to go back sooner than I thought as I am making good progress on the substitute forms for all the districts..Anyway just stayed upbeat. Then I asked if there was something he needed (since he had called me). He said no, just wondered what you guys were up to. So I said, headed home, going to work on more work forms while D naps and S gets his rest time in. Then casually asked, "So what's on the agenda for you today?" He said, just work, then home. I said sounds good, S is excited to play with you. Then told him I'd see him tonight and ended the call. Yay! Got home and there was a message on the machine from him too. So hopefully I can continue the DBing without too much of a setback.Bottom line, you are right, I just have to trust him and trust that he will do what is best for him in the long run. And I may go buy some duct tape to tape my phone and my mouth shut next Tuesday....hee hee
