At this point if you are trying to save your M then it is not worth getting into.

Remember DB rule of thumb: Do not go down the cheeseless tunnel.
or better said, Will what im about to ask bring me closer to my goal or put me farther away from it?

Stay solution focused!!! and unless you have concrete proof and are putting in place a boundry for your well being DON'T DO IT.

But that My OP.

JAK

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez