Frank man I know you're hurting but I want you to read the bold. I KNOW you're hurting.....I just want to repeat that so I don't seem like the cold callous B**** I've been called by the ex but the changes in your attitude should not be done on the basis of possibly drawing her back.
No, that is abundantly clear, I made changes in the past to bring her back because she was being destructive and I needed to save her - but forgot myself. I thought that she could save me and I waited but it never happened.
but the changes in your attitude should not be done on the basis of possibly drawing her back. 
