Talked to a friend who laid it out for me. Get YOUR crap together because that's what she's testing you on, and face it, if you don't get it together now, then when?
He thinks that it's the lack of feeling safe financially and emotionally that is the big problem for her, and that is the big problem for my self esteem also. Your friend is dead on.
Still thinks that with changes in my attitude, there is still a chance she will be drawn back. I don't know. I think the more she sees a 'better' life away with her friends and 'like minded' people the more she will not want to stay. What her friends are representing to her is false. They just want someone else drawn into their lala land. I get the impression your wife COULD go either way, but her HEART is with her family. Get your crap together. Take that little vacation, Frank.
It is time for you to refire. For real this time. And for Frank.
