I don't understand that logic. Why would I trust a man who cannot be vulnerable with me, who cannot be emotional with me, who says one thing but does another?
You didn't trust him so you asked him for assurances. Let's say your H was a wife child abusing alcoholic. Would you have needed assurances from SoldierBoy then? You demonstrated to SoldierBoy that you trusted your H more than him. Which was emotionally honest of you because you did.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
