When a person is done, they are done. Normally I don't try and sway them, what's the point. A waste of time better used elsewhere.
In this case What the hell Mishka?
You have been here what? 2 months? Were you expecting to be the miracle LBS with the miracle MLCer?
If you don't have the patience, you can't do this. If you cannot forgive this is pointless. If you don't let them actually go, they won't try to reconnect.
A few months of hell, that's all you have in you? That's all your marriage is worth?
Yeah, the OW the betrayal, the liar...blah blah blah.
The night you know that your children are sleeping in the same tiny apartment with a room right next to the one that they are f-ing each other's brains out in, that is a whole different sense of betrayal.
If you are done, then yes, be done.
If your marriage and the man you loved is worth more than a few months of this crap, then you will need to learn patience, to control your anger, and to learn some of the tools of DBing to keep you sane.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
