In Support of Strong Puppy

[fearless]

OTOH, it seems reasonable to me that a man might want to be with a woman who is both trusting and strong, not trusting just because she is strong. If a dark alley must be traversed, sometimes a man might want to be with a woman who carries her own sword but sometimes he might want to be with a woman who takes his hand and says "I trust you.". The woman who will only ever enter the own alley with her own sword in hand is IMO less brave than the one who can do both. The woman who always has to have her own sword is more concerned with earning the respect of men than engendering (literally!)their affection.

But this is mixing in a whole different set of questions and issues. I am and have been perfectly capable of trusting men (who are capable) to take care of me in situations where I needed someone to take care of me. Although sometimes it is scary for me because my XH would refuse to help me at times when I needed or asked for help.

What I was talking about in my previous post were women who wander down dark alleys ALONE for no needed reason with no means to protect themselves and then wait for someone to jump in and protect them. To me that's completely different than a man asking me to trust him in a dangerous situation that I cannot handle myself. Does that make sense?

I completely understand that men want and need to take care of women. My biggest question is why so many men seem to look to women who have foolishly and repeatedly gotten themselves into trouble versus women who have had a "bad break." (That's why I did like GP in that he admired you for your strength in doing what was right for your kids and in honoring your marriage as long as you did. he understood that you stayed because of your strength and not because of weakness which is why I think he admired you. I don't think he would have necessarily wanted to take care of you if you were a personality who had just stuck with 2bx because you were afraid to be alone.)