I usually write my own posts when I’m exhausted (which is all the time), so I can’t quite coherently wrap my mind around what I want to say sometimes. My thought for tonight is the old DB phrase “never, never, give up”. Here’s the question as best as I can frame it tonight:

Virtually none of us want to throw in the towel here as LBSs. If the WAS wants out in the worst way, does it really help to dig your heels in? Do you MAKE your spouse serve you?

When W. wanted out in the worst way from December to March 06, she was MISERABLE to live with. MISSERRABBLE!!!! Angry!!!! She would fix dinner for the kids and just leave the house and go to the beach and smoke cigarettes.

Her personal form of protest having had MOUTH CANCER as a child! She would return home, at 10PM or so, pile a dozen pillows between us on the bed, turn the TV on and wake me up. If I accidently touched her, she would recoil as if I had poured nitric acid on her. How do you get over that? When I asked her to turn it down of off, her angry response would be “Go sleep somewhere else”. Now I could have taken the TV and threw it out the window, or scream back at her to get her as^ in another bed, but with 3 kids there (or not there), not a good idea. Try to bargain you say? I did that. Same response. Virtually every day was like this.

I would pick her up daily at the train station after work, so she didn’t have to walk home. Walked toward the car like a zombie. Silence the whole way, puss on like she’d been sucking lemons all day. On weekends, she would immediately come home on Friday night and go to one of several neighbors houses and drink with the disenchanted wives in those three houses, come home and do the same thing.

I don’t see her being any different, or treating me any differently, but really, who here wants to quit? I was never perfect, but who the hel* is?

I’m certain if I say, “You want this, you do the work”, she immediately will and the anger will even corkscrew higher. One time, her best friend told me Mrs. FLTC lives her life at an 11 on a 10 point scale. Everything is a burr under her saddle. I don’t’ want this back, but I see no evidence of any change. Whadda ya’ think?