I will say a quick prayer for your wife, and I know how you feel. Even in the MIDST of my wife's affair, I never felt closer to her than when she was HURTING. It's the "rescuing" thing, and there's nothing wrong with it at moments like this. There's a HUGE difference between "don't rescue an infidel from the consequences of their affair" and "being there (even if just emotionally) to 'rescue' someone from physical pain, or even anxiety."
