Hi mmbug - I know the anger - I fight with myself thinking do I even want this person bck if he came back. He is not the man I married. My H was kind and loved his little girl. Now he is a selfsih jerk. I am still having days where I feel so angry at him I feel like tracking him down and slapping him in the face. He put me and my D through hell and we are still there. Her whole life is changed and if we get div it will be forever changed. He has changed who she is and who she will become. He only thought of himself bec he never once came to me to work on the M. And I know my H turned into a coward as well - get this - he ended our 20 yrs together over the phone while I was on vacation with my sister - coward. Then when I saw him in person he ws very angry and cruel - blamed me he hd and affair -said it was all me. They have no idea what this does to the kids. They are in their own selfish world. I am also in a situation where we may have to sell our home in a few months. I have also promised my D not until the end of the school year. I will fight for that. So I do understand the rage and anger and hate. Im sure eveyone here has exp that anger. I hope the counselor will help you decide what you want to do and if you even want to try to work on your M or just let go. You may just need some time
