Theoden, thankyou for your beautiful words. And thankyou for agreeing it is shameful to bring D around OW. It almost seems like I'm supposed to be ok with that and I'm making a big deal - at least to H it does. FA - your absolutely right - D does not trust H with her feelings - I asked her about that because last week she came home early from visit with H - he was supposed to have her from 4:30 - 6:30 one day during the week (he also gets alternate weekends - his request - wants to make sure that one weekend is free for him and OW probably)Anyway she walked in an hour early and was crying - but she held it in around H - said he was abrupt with her all night and rushed her through dinner - she cried for a 1/2 hour - I told her to call him - she refused - said I cant talk to Daddy like that. I think she also feels that my H's love is conditional with her and she might lose it if she does the wrong thing. Tears your heart. Just got email hes cancelling all visitation this week - during the week and this weekend w/o even an explanation for me to tell my D. But the sad thing is she does not even mention his name when she does not see him. SHe wont even ask me about him at all or wonder. Because since he left us in 9/07 his visits with her have been so sporadic - even going 3 weeks with no call or visit - now he is staying on sched usually but I hate to say it I think it is bec we are in court for the separation. Was this the person I was married to? Who is he????????
