Maybe I didnt get the gist of the book. I did read it last week and i did the exercises. What I would really like is to find a NMMNG group in my area. I posted on their message board but havent received a response for my area. "NMMNG is not about handing your love a laundry list of needs. It's about taking control of your SELF and not depending on others to "complete you." From what i took from the book its about getting the love you want, accepting that the people who love you WANT to fulfill your needs. Maybe shes just unclear on what my needs are? Ok, thinking about that.. she must know what my needs are. She is just unwilling/unable to fulfill them until I complete some impossible task. So we just bang our heads together. I have recommitted myself to being more positive for me. Ive started working out again. Ive changed the internal dialoge of al the negative things i say to myself. Im trying to change me and be more positive and do what *I* think is right, if it causes conflict on our relationship im not afraid to upset the queen anymore. Im not afraid to stomp on the eggshells. Its true I cant change her, I cant force her to see, all I can do is change me and get back to the confident, assertive, fun guy i used to be. I figure its a start in the right direction...
