So all was well last night, I was filling out teaching apps. and trying not to care at all about what H was doing when my phone beeped in the other room. It was 11:58, almost midnight. It was message from H "I am very tired and a little drunk going to sleep at (guy friend he had beers with)'s or Motel 6 again. See you tomorrow" Well I didn't know whether to be glad or mad about "See you tomorrow"--on one hand he plans on seeing me, on the other he just seems to know he can see me whenever he wants even after staying out all night!? Aargh. Of course I reacted when I wasn't going to; I tried to call but his phone rang and rang. Funny, he just sent a text but doesn't notice I am trying to call? (He usually puts his phone on silent when he is out)So I texted, "Call me". I waited fifteen minutes, got ready for bed, tried to call again w/ same results. Left a text message "I am not trying to be a hag but it IS bowling night(see earlier posts about former OW and bowling) so for you to stay out all night and not answer phone is upsetting. Last message but please call if you are concerned about keeping my trust". I said the trust thing because he has been forthcoming with whereabouts/details since telling me he broke it off with OW, and says he wants to "try to fix us". Then I went to bed but didn't sleep almost any. At 5:40 a.m. I get a text "If you want to put your mind at ease call me before I leave for work, (hotel phone # and room #)." So I knew I shouldn't call, just seeing the hotel # and room # I was sure he didn't stay with OW. She has her own apartment and her almost-ex H keeps son overnight on bowling nights, so my H would typically go there after bowling if he was with her. But I caved and called the hotel #, and he answered immediately. I asked why he hadn't called the night before, and he said he texted me,put the phone in his pocket (ringer off of course) and drove to hotel, crashed hard as slightly drunk, and didn't notice my messages until this morning. I told him I truly meant what I said about wanting him to go out and having fun, I want him to do that, but that I thought he ought to have respect enough to speak to me if he does something that he knows will bring up my trust issues. He said sorry. Then I said have a good day today, and hung up first. AARGH! Why did I have to call. On one hand I just want to go on about my day, do all the things I have to do--go turn in my teaching apps. at the different schools, groceries, etc., and be Chipper Charlie. But yet I am also pissed at him for pushing my buttons on the first tough night since he left the OW. So don't know if I should totally blow him off today, or answer if/when he calls and be upbeat as I have been doing. Any advice? I get the whole 180, GAL idea but if you don't act like anything they do ever bothers you, then they decide they want you back, how do you deal with the pent-up frustration? I suppose if I really detached I wouldn't be this flustered....
