I agree with the advice the others have given you. You have to pull yourself together for you. I think AmyC's idea of taking a few days off by yourself to get in touch with your inner self is a good idea.
I don't know your wife, but she sounds like a hippie from the 70's to me. I keep thinking, "what's she smoking?" She has that old 70's free spirit mentality. It was attractive on young people in the 70's. It's a lot less attractive on people you expect to have reached maturity in life. But so be it. That is her, she is on her quest to do what she wants for herself. So she will travel around and give and take massages where she finds them.
You talk on and off about the financial problems, and I think that is where your real problem is. On that, I am not good for advice. There is nothing so depressing as not being able to pay your bills. So I think this is where you need to focus your energy. I'd say, do your best to separate things financially from your wife, unless she is helping financially. And then if the business is failing, make a decision to either fix it or do something else. You sound like a resourceful guy who would be an asset to another company. Sometimes it is good to work for someone else and collect a paycheck without the responsibility for the whole business. Ah, but I said I'm not good at financial advice, so I won't go any further.
